This book was so quotable. Very short but very powerful; I highlighted pretty much every other line. I don't intend on having kids, but this made me think a lot about how we train girls and boys to be and the gender roles we should avoid them adopting, and it was very empowering and great advice.

Teach her that if you criticize X in women but do not criticize X in men, then you do not have a problem with X, you have a problem with women.I'm actually mad that I have to return this book to the library. I need to own this book. The author has such a way with words. She states her opinion in a matter of fact and simple way. I wish I were able to do the same but I'll have to content myself with using her quotes!It warms my cold dead heart to know that women like her exist out there in the wor...

‘your feminist premise should be: i matter. i matter equally. not ‘if only…’ not ‘as long as…’ i matter equally. full stop.’ once again, adichie is the voice of reason and the feminist icon we all deserve. i dont annotate my books but, if i did, i can guarantee nearly every single word of truth in this tiny gem of a book would be highlighted and underlined. there is so much wisdom and significance nestled into this letter that i am of the strong opinion this should be mandatory reading for an

Dear Ijeawele by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie is a letter she wrote to a close friend who has just given birth to a daughter. The friend has asked her to describe how to raise the daughter to be a feminist in Nigeria, a male centered country. Spelling out how to raise a feminist daughter in fifteen steps, this letter can be viewed as a companion piece to We Should All be Feminists and a manifesto of how to raise all children to view all people with respect. Even though I recently read We Should All

Your feminist premise should be: I matter. I matter equally. Not “if only.” Not “as long as.” I matter equally. Full stop. I honestly cannot think of any author who writes essays as equally hard-hitting and utterly readable as Adichie does. Perhaps Roxane Gay's work could be said to be as compelling, or Ta-Nehisi Coates's work to be as powerful, but Adichie always comes out on top, for me, as someone who can write about important subjects with a conversational tone that makes them pageturners

Dear Ijeawele is the author's answer to a friend's request for advice on how to raise a feminist daughter. The book is structured as a letter and includes 15 suggestions, all quite relevant and which should already be common sense. Below are a few quotes, but I could just put here the whole book: “Your feminist premise should be: I matter. I matter equally. Not “if only.” Not “as long as.” I matter equally. Full stop.”“Teach her that if you criticize X in women but do not criticize X in men, the...

“Teach her to love books. If she sees you reading she will understand that reading is valuable. Books will help her understand the world, help her express herself, and help her in whatever she wants to become.” Reading, reading is so vitally important in understanding other people and differences. It develops empathy and it makes the world a better place. We should never restrict ourselves in life, men or women, it doesn’t matter as long as we do not full victim to the silly constraints imp

4.5 stars“Your feminist premise should be: I matter. I matter equally. Not 'if only.' Not 'as long as.' I matter equally.”This book is Adichie’s response to her friend’s request to help her raise a feminist daughter. A lot of her ideas are already ingrained in my mind, but I appreciated the reinforcements. I also learned a few new ideas to help empower young girls and women. I grew up in a climate that was somewhat conflicting regarding the roles of men and women. When I didn’t have a boyfriend

‘Because social norms are created by human beings...there is no social norm that cannot be changed.’We’ve all heard the maxim that ‘change starts with you,’ which is something we must all take to heart and shoulder the responsibility. Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, author of the powerful novel Americanah and the powerful TedTalk We Should All Be Feminists, reminds parents how important the idea of change beginning with them is in her letter to a close friend, recently revised and published as Dear Ij...

++++2021 Update: Since I read this work by Adichie I have discovered that she is an author who shares very different ideologies than I do. And therefore she is an author I feel I can no longer support as I am unable to separate the art from the artist. I shall leave my review intact but remove my rating. ++++"Teach her that the idea of 'gender roles' is absolute nonsense. Do not ever tell her that she should or should not do something because she is a girl. 'Because you are a girl' is never reas...

"Why were we raised to speak in low tones about periods! To be filled with shame if our menstrual blood happened to stain our skirt? Periods are nothing to be ashamed of. Periods are normal and natural, and the human species would not be here if periods did not exist."A must read. I cannot believe I took it this long to pick up this small yet powerful book. This is the kind of non-fictional read which I feel we can introduce to kids starting age 8 onwards. Because feminism and basic ideas on gen...

This might have been even better than 'We Should All Be Feminists' which I loved a lot. I found myself nodding along to everything Adichie was saying. This is largely focused on motherhood, gender roles, and how to raise your child to be a feminist.

Here's a very short book with a lot of wisdom.Just because it's short it does not mean it is a light read, not at all.Years ago, the author received a letter from a childhood friend who had just given birth to a baby girl. In the letter, her friend asks Chimamanda for advise on how to raise her daughter as a feminist. Oh boy, and did she deliver a response. You know she did.The book is divided in small chapters and in each chapter there's a suggestion or topic from the author. The topics range f...