Right now, over 100 million Americans secretly feel frustrated and bored with their lives. You may be one of them if…

*you’ve come to regard yourself as “your own worst enemy”

*you’ve developed a commute-work-commute-sleep routine that seems endless

*you and your significant other treat each other like roommates

*you constantly daydream and wonder, “Is this all there is?”

*you sense a potentially hot relationship with someone next door, down the hall, or in the adjacent cubicle but somehow it never happens

*you worry that no matter what you do to stay in shape, the battle is already lost

*you have a tendency, when asked how you’re doing, to just say, “Fine.”

If any of the above sounds familiar, there’s clearly something missing from your life. This book will help you discover what it is, and how to win it back. Written by Mel Robbins, one of America’s top relationship experts and radio/tv personalities, this hands-on guide not only shows you how to put your finger on the problem, it reveals what to do about it.

Mel Robbins has spent her career teaching people how to push past their self-imposed limits to get what they truly desire. She has an in-depth understanding of the psychological and social factors that repeatedly hold you back, and more important, a unique set of tools for getting you where you want to be. In Stop Saying You’re Fine, she draws on the latest neuroscientific research, interviews with countless everyday people, and ideas she’s tested in her own life to show what works and what doesn’t. The key, she explains, is understanding how your own brain works against you. Because evolution has biased your mental gears against taking action, what you need are techniques to outsmart yourself.

That may sound impossible, but Mel has created a remarkably effective method to help you do just that -- and some of her discoveries will astonish you. By ignoring how you feel and seizing small moments of rich possibility –a process she calls “leaning in” – you can make tiny course directions add up to huge change. Among this book’s other topics: how everything can depend on not hitting the “snooze” button; the science of connecting with other people, what children can teach us about getting things done; and why five seconds is the maximum time you should wait before acting on a great idea.

Blending warmth, humor and unflinching honesty with up-to-the-minute science and hard-earned wisdom, Stop Saying You’re Fine moves beyond the platitudes and easy fixes offered in many self-help books. Mel’s insights will actually help vault you to a better life, ensuring that the next time someone asks how you’re doing, you can truthfully answer, “Absolutely great.”

Reader Reviews

Shayanika

(5/5)

Apr 06, 2025

Read it all the way through and I keep going back to this one. A practical handbook on getting “unstuck” and moving forward. Loved the little exercises throughout the book which were both thought-provoking and useful!

Nikki

(2/5)

This is not a bad book. If you're really such in a rut I think it might be helpful, but of all the motivational/self help I've read this year this book was my least favorite.

Brent Mair

(4/5)

Mel is a no-nonsense self-help counselor. I first heard her on the audio supplement to Success Magazine. The book was full of great ideas to change your life. I haven't done any of them. Did the book fail?

Jodi Blackman

I found this author through her excellent TED talk and am so glad. This book finally cuts the bull and gives concrete, useful advice about how to stop getting in your own way. I get in my own way a lot. In a frank, amusing and accessible way, Robbins readers navigate through their crappy excuses and stulifying coping mechanisms and encourages them to take action and create lasting change. Getting unstuck is hard, and our brains try all sorts of tricks to make us stay there.Robbins explains strat...

I can sum up this book in two sentences: 1. Get off your butt and take action! 2. If you don't know how to do #1, hire someone to tell you how. Other than that, just the usual advice; nothing profound.

Kim

A long narrative with many examples about how to make your life suck less. Save yourself some time and read the conclusion first, then if you want further elaboration read the chapter. There are definitely some good tips, I just wish she got to the point faster.

Robert

(1/5)

Repetitive and condescending. The tone of the audiobook narrator doesn't help, as she's almost scolding the listener. Essentially the book makes sweeping judgements and generalisations regarding the listener/reader's lifestyle and behaviour and concludes with "you're either being a chicken or a jerk." Yes, seriously! I'm surprised by the high ratings and assume this is the type of approach that resonates with an American audience (a subsection of it anyway -- one that sees the world as dog-eat-d...

Hamin

I listened to the Audiobook version of this book after watching Mel Robbins' Tedtalk video. And like her Tedtalk, this book did not disappoint. Like others have mentioned, she has this no-nonsense, unapologetic tone. Her basic message? If you're stuck in life, stop saying you're okay. Admit to yourself that you're dissatisfied & do something about it. There are many different life lessons that she sprinkles into the book, but 2 main messages stick out to me. The first is to act quickly. She call...

Siddhartha Banerjee

Nuggets from this book are useful; but really not worth reading/listening through the whole book. The number of times Robbins repeats the same ideas and advice in slightly different wording gets tiring.

Tam

Ironically it took me ages to finish this because it spurs you to action and I was going through an intercontinental move and job change at the time I started it, so other priorities took precedence. But it has a lot of really good advice and action items on how to get unstuck and create a habit of being more okay with change. A lot of mental models and resources as well. It’s super useful but you do need to be ready to DO something. I read it with a set of highlighters and sticky notes, as well...

Alex Schmidt

(3/5)

This took my 5 months to listen to. I took a few months break from it because it wasn’t my favorite and the last story was hard to listen to since I didn’t relate to it. I honestly wouldn’t recommend this to someone just because it didn’t fulfill me in the way I wanted it to. She has better books that I’d recommend and that I love. This one just didn’t do it for me.

Emily Palmer

I read this for a book club - so I'm not really the target audience. I thought the advice was generic and sometimes contradictory.

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